Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Hair Myths or Hair Facts? You Decide

Essence.com posted an article on hair myths, see if you agree with Tia Williams' post.

Top Five Black Hair Myths

What's true and what's not when it comes to black hair? celebrity hairstylist Ursula Stephen set rumors straight.

By Tia Williams

While it goes without saying that we adore our grandmothers, some of the hair gems they passed down to us could be filed under "Old Wives Tales" (raise your hand if you thought white hair naturally grew faster than Black hair). Here, we sat down with celebrity hairstylist Ursula Stephen -- she's responsible for Rihanna's trendsetting tresses -- to get the real deal on the top five Black hair myths.

MANE MYTH: Trimming your hair will make it grow faster.

TRESS TRUTH: "While frequent trims are great for removing split ends, they don't actually make your hair grow faster," says Ursula. That being said, don't skip your trims! If you ignore split ends for too long, they can creep up the hair shaft, and then you'll need to snip off more than you bargained for. Regular snips every 6 to 8 weeks will keep your coif looking crisp and clean.

Click here for more of the story.

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Hair Preparations for the Big Day

Healthy hair starts months before your wedding. Begin to think about and explore the various ways to wear your hair, as well as, ensure that your hair is its healthiest.

There are several things that are a must to start that journey:

1. Eat lots of veggies and fruits. It is best to have a diet high in green vegetables, like collars, kale and turnip greens. According to Wholefoods, these green veggies have high nutritional density when compared to other fruits and vegetables.

Here is a little PSA for those who already eat collards. Please leave out neckbones and cooking your greens for hours because it kills all the vitamins and nutrients. You can cook greens under 30 minutes and they will be cooked. Yes, a little crunchy, but great for the body.

2. Drink Plenty of H2o. You absolutely must irrigate your temple with fresh and vibrant liquids. Water is a life necessity, and it will be absolutely beneficial by getting into the habit of drinking as much as you can a day, even after the 6 glasses of 8 ounces. Truthfully, that is just a guestimation based on the average person's build and weight, but the heavier you are, the more water intake you should be allowing.

A benefit to water is flushing out toxins, hydrating organs, skin & hair, plus losing weight. Yes, water helps with weight regulation. And I am not talking about Vitamin Water or Crystal Light. Clear and pure water.

3. Exercise. When you move, not only are strengthening muscle, shedding fat, and making your bones more durable, but you are also creating more blood flow throughout your body, thus producing more oxygen. The better the flow, the better environment for cells to produce skin, a healthy supply of air and blood to your scalp, thus it will help grow hair.

4. Air out your weave and/or de-stress hair roots. Rapid rates of hair loss have been attributed to weaves and stress on hair lines such as tight braids and ponytails. It is absolutely necessary that you keep your hair clean, and your roots breathing. Today's weaves and wigs are available by the dozen and in so many fabulous styles, but it is coming at a cost, they are made with cheap, toxic chemicals that are causing young women to start balding.

As well, stylists who pull the hair back too tight are gradually, permanently damaging hair lines especially at the temples. Case and point, the fabulous Susan L. Taylor's hair has become a quasi-push back due to years of the same cornrows spiraling down her back.

5. Understand the importance of scalp health when achieving or maintaining hair health. Your scalp is the root to great hair. Many of us pay attention to our hair with various products and forget the ground in which it spouts. If your hair is brittle, breaking, or you have dandruff, go to the root of the problem, your scalp.

It is recommended to through away thick pomades, oils, greases, creams and sheens that rob scalps of health because they clog the pores and shafts that hair grow.

6. Create a hair care regime. Just like you have an eating, exercising and praying schedule, put a hair care regime on the list. Your scalp and hair need to be a regular pamper session.

7. Reduce stress. Living in abundant stress not only slows hair and increases weight gain and the likelihood to develop health issues, but it also causes severe hair loss. Create ways to deal with stresses in a balanced and healthy lifestyle. My suggestion, take up a long, lost hobby you loved as a child, or always wanted to do. That puts you in a place of innocent pleasure without any strings attached.

7. Love your hair. For women of color, and women with curls, we are raised in a culture that does not celebrate our hair. Many of us have been subjected to hair care treatments since we were girls that changed our natural hair because it was too unmanageable or "nappy" as our female folk would call it.

Many of us cringe at our natural hair, or our hair period, and often curse in exasperation when combing it. Face it, we got kinks, it ain't going away. Matter of fact, it is something of extraordinary beauty, that many stare at in awe.

A perfect hair day is totally loving your hair.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Good & Married



Sun Rah and I have been permanently tied at the hip for 4 months and I can just now say that I have recuperated. I was so exhausted for months and I didn't even want to see a wedding that I am just now getting back to this blog.

Here are a few little words of wisdom that I learned from my experience.

Trust your wedding planner (If they are good).
Rest, rest, rest, rest, rest before your wedding.
Write down all that you need to know before the day because you will forget everything.
Photos are everything.
A good deejay is required.
Good food is a definite.
Wonderful venue seals the deal.

TTYL
Namibia

Monday, June 28, 2010

Gurl, Get Your Money's Worth

You should not play full price for anything these days. Have you seen the signs, 20 percent off, 50 percent off, everything must go.

And though the wedding industry has a reputation of gouging wide-eyed brides and grooms, it does not have to be like that.
I am honoring my budget-consciousness and my wedding will be fabulous.

In fact, this depression is forcing everyone to re-evaluate and re-price goods and services, and that includes the wedding industry.

Two months ago I had a photographer quote me $2,000.00 to take photos at my wedding. I was floored! And I told him I would like to negotiate that price, but he said that he didn't negotiate, at all—then proceeded to tell me that if a potential client did not like his prices, he always had someone else in the wings.

Of course my black woman neck started circling and I said in my head, "Oh hell no, you will not have my business." I went about my way and found other options that were better priced, and the photographers were extremely accommodating.

I don't care what type of business patronage the first photographer claimed he had, everyone has been affected by the financial climate. EVERYBODY.

Negotiating is everything with this wedding. I am learning fast, and in some cases, in uncomfortable ways. Though I must admit, I have been getting blessed with great deals.

So let me give you some of the huge finds:
My wedding planner (who has bent over backwards) was a steal and has become a dear friend. Plus she finagled hotel rooms @ the JW Marriot Staple Center for the lowest group price rate that the hotel offers.

The wedding venue is a top-notch place that has been featured on Wedding Central. I got a 50% discount.

My future mother-in-spirit found a soap mold of the Adinkra symbol and is making chocolates as souvenirs.

I just saw some Old Navy fuchsia flip-flops I want to purchase for my circle of sisters who will be walking with me through this. The shoes are $1.49 with a 30% discount on top of that.

The flowers and decor will be purchased in the flower district in downtown LA @ bulk prices that are a fraction of flower shops.

These are just some of the savings I am using to make sure I get good quality at budget-conscious prices.

But I must stress, you must be damn near vigilante, even when you don't want to, and even when you are not doing wedding things. It is something that must become habit.

For instance, I purchased some spices at some frou-frou place in an upper-class side of town this weekend. The woman shorted me 8 cents change from the 88 cents I was supposed to get. I slowly counted my money and didn't move. She smiled, and I smiled right back and told her I was waiting for my change. She admitted that she did not have the rest and just had dollars. So I asked for a full dollar and gave her the 80cents. When she said she couldn't do it, I told her to give me my refund.

My money is precious and I work hard. The last think you will do is short me and I accept it. I have to admit, I am still learning, but an old Jewish told me one day, "Count your pennies and you don't have to worry about your dollars."

Love & Balance
Namibia Indigo

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Weight Loss the Uphill Climb

Like every bride, I want to look my best when I jump the broom. That required me to shed some of this love/stress/winter weight I've picked up the past five years since Amen-Rah and I have been together.


I blogged about losing roughly 40 pounds several months ago. Well, the last time I weighed myself I've shed (drum roll) 6 pounds. Oh yes, I have a lot to go.


And I've been doing everything, from running to weight lifting to swimming. And the pounds have slowly, and I mean extra slowly come off.


I have been eating mostly fruits and veggies, getting colonics, and a whole bevy of stuff, but I came to understand that my weight was emotional and spiritual. I needed to get away from NYC and woosahh.


As a result, I took 2 weeks and went to Los Angeles. While there, a very good friend encouraged me to try Yoga again, and with some doubt I did. And I must say, I was transformed.


I came back to the NYC area with a charge and joined a hot Yoga or Bikram Yoga studio. Honey child, the sweating and postures got me open. Last night I sweat out the 3 Sangrias I had during the TrueBlood season premiere.


I swear by Yoga! Now don't get it twisted, Yoga will have you hella sore afterwards. Get the right instructor and you will begin to work muscles you did not know.


The Yoga has been a life saver because I didn't know how I was gonna shed other than starve myself and anyone who knows me, knows, I will not give up my food.


Monday, June 14, 2010

Jack Pot! I Found the ONE

Whew, after months of digging through Los Angeles, I can relax for a second and celebrate. I found my venue sites! Yay!!!!

For those of you who know my pain understand that this is a huge accomplishment. I am so incredibly happy with the places I selected. Yes, I did say places as in more than one.

It wasn't my plan, but as it played out, I have the opportunity to work with two fabulous sites.

Since I have been advised not to give the information of my wedding site on the web, I will give you a list a great venues that had excellent representatives and are gems in Los Angeles.

I decided to focus on the wonderful spaces rather than give any energy to the shitty ones. I will reserve that at a later time.

Bonaventure Brewing Company is located on the fourth floor of the historical Bonaventure Hotel in downtown Los Angeles. This section of the hotel juts out to an outdoor rooftop like space that has a beer brewing company, restaurant, and lawn space. It is an oasis in the middle of the concrete jungle that you must visit.

http://bonaventurebrewing.com

The food is good and the drinks were wonderful. Oh, and the music selection was just my thing. As I walked around the patio area that is decorated with ivy along the fences and small accents of red, I jammed to E. Badu, J. Scott and Maxwell. Ahh, my type of space.

The venue coordinator, Althea Burnett is this incredibly beautifully spirited woman who loves what she does and does it well. BBC is a hidden gem in Los Angeles. It is very inexpensive to rent. The people who work that are very hospitable, and it is centrally located in a hotel that has a hundred and one things to do. I totally loved this place and recommend it to everyone. Tell Althea that Kaia sent you.

Annenberg Community Beach House was a slice of heaven. The view is gorgeous and people are lining up to use this space for the wedding venue. The Annenberg Beach House used to be the destination where celebrities came to play on the beachside in the early to mid 1900s. Since it has been restored by the city of Santa Monica.

http://beachhouse.smgov.net

I was blown away by the picturesque view of the pool house, but was stopped short because the strict alcohol and catering policies. However, I love to support city and state owned parks and sites because it brings needed revenue to maintaining historical sites that have so much history.

The Kress is for the hip, chic and cosmopolitan Angeleno. I was interested in the rooftop of the old hotel converted into a super, supper club with multiple levels of opulence.

http://thekress.net

Overlooking Hollywod, this space had a long list of good food choices and is great if you want a knock down drag out party. The liquor prices will get you if you have a hosted bar.

The Speak Easy at the Music Box was breathless venue that wowed me. The package that Sarah Quigleygave me left me speechless. Everything from our names on a marquee to the use of several rococo-styled rooms. She also is willing to negotiate and is a helluva person in following up.

http://tmbhollywood.com

I put in a proposal to use the Speakeasy, a rooftop portion of the Music Box, then do the reception inside. She is very, very reasonable.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

On the 10th Winner

Once again, Tanya Turner-Marshall gave me some great advice. I guess she is only one of two people who believes I am not a fluke. Houseneva, I dug her suggestions with my Afro-Boho-Cosmo-chic. Some fall reds or rusts, with a khaki or moss green, and yellow-golds on crisp white and a black crisp tux.



After much thought, I came up with a color palette that fuses my love of vivid colors and earth colors with a touch of clean, elegance. i'm working on a fourth color to give it a pop. What do you think?